Monday, February 01, 2016
Quitting the Yelling
Ben went to a hockey tournament with Harry (AND THEY WON THE TOURNAMENT AND HARRISON SCORED THE GAME-WINNING GOAL OF THE CHAMPIONSHIP GAME), and I stayed home with the other 3 kids. Cooper had a fever on Friday but seemed OK on Saturday. Jack STILL has a fever today, and he threw up ALL WEEKEND.
We were basically housebound until Ben and Harry got home on Sunday.
Soon after this picture was taken, Dorothy ripped off her bandaid and scratched open her face. Again.
looked a little bit like Chris Farley.
21-day project to quit yelling at my kids.
Today was day 1. It was... not a success. But I have been in my office since 3, so the there has been no afternoon/evening yelling. Erm.
You guys know I love Gretchen Rubin and her books and her wonderful podcast, right? So I figured getting daily emails that would help me change a bad habit would be totally great. And the first one was excellent. It's not her fault that I couldn't quit yelling I have PMS for one thing, and I was alone with 3 kids all weekend, and today was a bitch and a half. We had Little Gym. Mondays have deadlines for my adjunct class, and Ben and I tag-team work.
But! I think not yelling would be a total happiness booster, and even though I am only a day into the project, I know from reading Rubin's other stuff that this won't really be about changing who I am, it'll be about changing my circumstances so I won't need to yell. Today, for example, I realized that nagging Dorothy and Cooper about wearing their coats makes me prone to yelling (not about the coats but about the next thing that comes up) because I get so frustrated. So I just threw their coats in my giant tote bag and got on with my life. IT WAS SO MUCH NICER.
I took her 4 tendencies quiz, and I am pretty sure I am an upholder (I say pretty sure because I am worried that I just WANT to see myself as an upholder and that swayed my results). This means I would be able to succeed at this 21-day project without any sort of external accountability, but I'm going to post about it here because why not? A little accountability can't hurt, right? I really do want to have more patience, and I think I need a little help thinking critically about what I am doing now to run myself ragged.
Something else that would be a happiness booster (for others, maybe even more than myself)? If I could stop posting Hillary Clinton stuff on Facebook. BUT I LOVE HER. And I have a daughter now. This feels personal. I want to see the first woman president, and I want to see her right now!